Does Size Matter?

Now that I have your attention…I think the real question is, how can we create the most pleasurable experience with our sexual partners? The focus is better spent on our attitude and actions in bed, not the tools we bring to the job. Why is this the case?

Let me break it down for you:

• Only 1/3 of vulva owners can orgasm through penetration alone (without clitoral stimulation)
• 65% of heterosexual women report achieving orgasm during sex compared to 86% of lesbian women
• Study results vary but the average aroused vagina is only around 4.75 inches deep

So basically, if you’re a heterosexual penis owner and want to let the fate of your partner’s pleasure rest on the size of your equipment, may the odds be ever in your favour. Perhaps instead of asking ‘does size matter?’ it’s worth asking your sexual partner:

• What turns you on?
• Show me how you like to be touched
• How can we give you more pleasure during sex?

In addition to (or instead of) penis in vagina (PIV) sex, other ways to bring pleasure to your partner are:

• Foreplay: It’s about the journey, not the destination. Take your time…kiss, stroke and play with each other to build arousal
• Oral: PIV sex doesn’t always (or ever) have to be the end goal…your tongue can be a much more effective way to bring pleasure to your partner
• Toys or fingers: Either on their own or during oral or PIV sex. The way to a vulva owner’s orgasm is through the clitoris in most cases. Ensuring it gets plenty of attention is key to unlocking pleasure

While one in three vulva owners are lucky enough to orgasm through penetration alone, it’s definitely not the case for the majority of us. Everyone has their personal taste and there will always be size queens out there…but most of us have no plans to get the measuring tape out.

Let’s stop asking ‘does size matter?’ and spend more time asking vulva owners how they like to be pleasured. While your Uber rating might be 4.93, I think we’d all like to see that 65% satisfaction rating go a lot higher…