‘You don’t need toys, you have me’ is one of my top red flag statements to hear when it comes to sex. Of course we all want to feel desired and enough for someone during sex, but we need to stop looking at toys like they are a threat…they are our teammates. Shaming someone forContinue reading “Toys Are Teammates”
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Mayhem’s Kinks Part II
That’s right…I have enough kinks to do a second post on the topic. It’s likely there will be a third at some point too…kink is a very slippery slope! • Public Play • I imagine this is connected to my exhibitionism/voyeurism kinks (refer to Part I of my kink list)…I get such a rush fromContinue reading “Mayhem’s Kinks Part II”
Sexual Exploration
Whether it’s with a new playmate or in a long term relationship, sexual exploration can enhance your experience of pleasure. You can explore all sorts of new territory with partners, including everything from pegging, public fun, dominant/submissive experimentation to the use of sex toys. However, one of the most frequent questions I’m asked is ‘HowContinue reading “Sexual Exploration”
Vulva Owner’s Pleasure
Vulva owners are conditioned from a very young age to be people pleasers and put everyone else’s needs first. One area this can show up is during partnered sex…especially with society’s focus on penis pleasure and penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex. The orgasm gap is very real and is most prominent in heterosexual sex than any otherContinue reading “Vulva Owner’s Pleasure”
Edging
It’s easy to fall into the same routine with solo and partner play…you have a formula and it gets the job done, right? Wham, bam, thank you ma’am! But sometimes it’s nice to take a break from your regular patterns and mix things up…and edging is a great way to do that. Edging is theContinue reading “Edging”
The Hangover Horn
It’s no coincidence that most of my online dating matches happen on a Sunday or the day after a major social event. It’s also the time when anyone who’s ever ghosted me feels the need to message ‘hey’ out of the blue. It’s the curse of the hangover horn and it’s a very real phenomenon.Continue reading “The Hangover Horn”
All I Want For Christmas
All I want for Christmas is for people to stop asking me if I… Am really a cougar Want a threesome Wanna fuck Have Snap All I want for Christmas is for people on dating apps to… Get verified Write a bio Have decent profile photos Stop sending ‘hey’ as a first message All IContinue reading “All I Want For Christmas”
The Hard Truth
Despite the slowly shifting conversation around sexual pleasure, there’s still a strong focus on penetrative sex. I’m sure you’ve seen it in mainstream porn…a rock hard penis pounding away non-stop for what seems like hours. This has fed into the unhealthy expectation that penis owners will perform on demand and for as long as required.Continue reading “The Hard Truth”
Pegging
So you’ve mastered entry level butt play (starting here) and now you’re ready to step it up with pegging. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of things, it can be tricky territory to navigate with a partner. Before I dive in (so to speak), for those who aren’t familiar…pegging is when one partnerContinue reading “Pegging”
Glass Half Full
I’m a glass half full kind of woman…especially when it comes to sex toys. The more the merrier if you ask me. You name it…vibrators, plugs, dildos…I’ve probably tried it…and enjoyed it…and have it in my top drawer. There’s one particular type of toy I’ve come (pun intended) to love recently…the glass variety. While theyContinue reading “Glass Half Full”
Madam Mayhem 