My new found funemployment has coincidently landed just before the start of Locktober. I feel like it’s a sign…I’m going to be running my key holding service for another year. If you’ve ever been curious to try chastity or you just want to a taste of being under my control for a month, this isContinue reading “Locktober 2025”
Author Archives: Madam Mayhem
Fake Submissives
I’ve spoken about the dangers of fake Dominants before, but what about fake submissives? I think there’s an assumption that submissives don’t have control (I wrote about submissive myths too), so it can’t be harmful if they are inexperienced. This is absolutely not the case and they can be just as dangerous as fake Dominants.Continue reading “Fake Submissives”
Lower Your Standards
It’s the latest hetero buzz narrative on social media…cishet women supposedly wanting a 6’5, blue eyed finance man with a trust fund. I’m sure you’ve seen it. Society is always telling women their dating standards are too high and to lower their expectations for a male partner, but should we? For starters, I’ve literally neverContinue reading “Lower Your Standards”
Switch Myths
I think being a switch is both a blessing and a curse. Theoretically we have the best of both worlds…in reality it’s not so simple. We tend to hear a lot about those who are purely Dominant or submissive, but what are some of the myths about us switches? • Switches can have more playmatesContinue reading “Switch Myths”
Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons
I thought I’d start the year reflecting on some lessons I learnt in 2024 (kind of like last year when I made my list of ins and outs). While it felt like the world was regressing, I actually celebrated growth in most areas of my life (including my biceps). This is what last year taughtContinue reading “Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons”
Terms to Google
When you spend as much time as I do in the world of kink, you find yourself googling a host of words and acronyms (the latter if you use the dating app Feeld). I’d love to explain some of the more obscure terms I’ve discovered, but alas, the censorship overlords might delete my website. SoContinue reading “Terms to Google”
Baggage
Earlier this year I went on four dates with an older man who didn’t fail to tell me on a regular basis that I brought ‘complications’ to the table. He was referring to Madam Mayhem and considered my sexual openness ‘baggage’. Yet he praised me for being so understanding that he was back living withContinue reading “Baggage”
Fetishising People
If you spend more than a minute on Fabswingers you’ll see plenty of cuckold couples seeking ‘BBC’. If you aren’t familiar with the acronym, Google at your own peril…I’ll wait. We’ve all heard of fetishes for inanimate objects like latex or high heels, but did you know people can be fetishised too? Some people loveContinue reading “Fetishising People”
Mayhem’s Queer Journey
I’ve been trying to write this post for three years and since Pride month is wrapping up today, I think it’s time I finally shared with you my queer journey and coming out as a ‘late-in-life’ (ouch) pansexual. To set the scene: I grew up catholic and attended a catholic all girls’ high school. YouContinue reading “Mayhem’s Queer Journey”
Submissive Myths
A while back I wrote about Dominant myths…now it’s time to explore some of the falsehoods around submissives (don’t worry my fellow switches, we’ll be up next). Much like ‘Dominant’ can conjure up inaccurate stereotypes of whips and black latex, there are plenty of misconceptions around subs… Subs don’t have any control Even if aContinue reading “Submissive Myths”
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