My new found funemployment has coincidently landed just before the start of Locktober. I feel like it’s a sign…I’m going to be running my key holding service for another year. If you’ve ever been curious to try chastity or you just want to a taste of being under my control for a month, this isContinue reading “Locktober 2025”
Category Archives: Kink
Fake Submissives
I’ve spoken about the dangers of fake Dominants before, but what about fake submissives? I think there’s an assumption that submissives don’t have control (I wrote about submissive myths too), so it can’t be harmful if they are inexperienced. This is absolutely not the case and they can be just as dangerous as fake Dominants.Continue reading “Fake Submissives”
Switch Myths
I think being a switch is both a blessing and a curse. Theoretically we have the best of both worlds…in reality it’s not so simple. We tend to hear a lot about those who are purely Dominant or submissive, but what are some of the myths about us switches? • Switches can have more playmatesContinue reading “Switch Myths”
Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons
I thought I’d start the year reflecting on some lessons I learnt in 2024 (kind of like last year when I made my list of ins and outs). While it felt like the world was regressing, I actually celebrated growth in most areas of my life (including my biceps). This is what last year taughtContinue reading “Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons”
Terms to Google
When you spend as much time as I do in the world of kink, you find yourself googling a host of words and acronyms (the latter if you use the dating app Feeld). I’d love to explain some of the more obscure terms I’ve discovered, but alas, the censorship overlords might delete my website. SoContinue reading “Terms to Google”
Fetishising People
If you spend more than a minute on Fabswingers you’ll see plenty of cuckold couples seeking ‘BBC’. If you aren’t familiar with the acronym, Google at your own peril…I’ll wait. We’ve all heard of fetishes for inanimate objects like latex or high heels, but did you know people can be fetishised too? Some people loveContinue reading “Fetishising People”
Submissive Myths
A while back I wrote about Dominant myths…now it’s time to explore some of the falsehoods around submissives (don’t worry my fellow switches, we’ll be up next). Much like ‘Dominant’ can conjure up inaccurate stereotypes of whips and black latex, there are plenty of misconceptions around subs… Subs don’t have any control Even if aContinue reading “Submissive Myths”
Pro Domme
I have recently ventured into the world of being a Pro Domme…yes, I’m living proof that kink is a VERY slippery slope. There are a plethora of harsh Mistresses out there, but very few Pro Dommes at the sensual, gentle femdom end of the spectrum…where I sit as a pleasure Domme. I decided I canContinue reading “Pro Domme”
Mayhem’s 2024 In & Outs
Dating In… Dating Out… Sex In… Sex Out… Kink In… Kink Out… What would you add as your 2024 in and outs?
Mayhem’s 2023 Wrapped
Madam Mayhem was originally born so I could talk about my dating and kink journey. The hope being that by sharing my experiences it might help others on their own journey. So in that spirit I’m doing a ‘Mayhem’s 2023 Wrapped’ (spoiler alert…it’s been a terrible year for dating). Dating Stats: Reasons Dates Didn’t Progress:Continue reading “Mayhem’s 2023 Wrapped”
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