It’s officially the time of year we reflect on the past 12 months of our lives. Whether it’s Spotify shaming us for our questionable music taste or friends and family sharing their highlights of 2025, we can’t avoid it. In this spirit I thought I’d share the important milestones that formed my year of Mayhem.Continue reading “Mayhem’s 2025 Wrapped”
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Locktober 2025
My new found funemployment has coincidently landed just before the start of Locktober. I feel like it’s a sign…I’m going to be running my key holding service for another year. If you’ve ever been curious to try chastity or you just want to a taste of being under my control for a month, this isContinue reading “Locktober 2025”
Fake Submissives
I’ve spoken about the dangers of fake Dominants before, but what about fake submissives? I think there’s an assumption that submissives don’t have control (I wrote about submissive myths too), so it can’t be harmful if they are inexperienced. This is absolutely not the case and they can be just as dangerous as fake Dominants.Continue reading “Fake Submissives”
Switch Myths
I think being a switch is both a blessing and a curse. Theoretically we have the best of both worlds…in reality it’s not so simple. We tend to hear a lot about those who are purely Dominant or submissive, but what are some of the myths about us switches? • Switches can have more playmatesContinue reading “Switch Myths”
Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons
I thought I’d start the year reflecting on some lessons I learnt in 2024 (kind of like last year when I made my list of ins and outs). While it felt like the world was regressing, I actually celebrated growth in most areas of my life (including my biceps). This is what last year taughtContinue reading “Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons”
Terms to Google
When you spend as much time as I do in the world of kink, you find yourself googling a host of words and acronyms (the latter if you use the dating app Feeld). I’d love to explain some of the more obscure terms I’ve discovered, but alas, the censorship overlords might delete my website. SoContinue reading “Terms to Google”
Fetishising People
If you spend more than a minute on Fabswingers you’ll see plenty of cuckold couples seeking ‘BBC’. If you aren’t familiar with the acronym, Google at your own peril…I’ll wait. We’ve all heard of fetishes for inanimate objects like latex or high heels, but did you know people can be fetishised too? Some people loveContinue reading “Fetishising People”
Submissive Myths
A while back I wrote about Dominant myths…now it’s time to explore some of the falsehoods around submissives (don’t worry my fellow switches, we’ll be up next). Much like ‘Dominant’ can conjure up inaccurate stereotypes of whips and black latex, there are plenty of misconceptions around subs… Subs don’t have any control Even if aContinue reading “Submissive Myths”
Pro Domme
I have recently ventured into the world of being a Pro Domme…yes, I’m living proof that kink is a VERY slippery slope. There are a plethora of harsh Mistresses out there, but very few Pro Dommes at the sensual, gentle femdom end of the spectrum…where I sit as a pleasure Domme. I decided I canContinue reading “Pro Domme”
The Swipe Experiment II
I did another Swipe Experiment (nope, still not a masochist despite evidence to the contrary) which was different from the first one I did in 2021. Last time my dating goal was to find a FWB…this time I’m at a place in my dating journey where I’m wanting a relationship. I state this on myContinue reading “The Swipe Experiment II”
Madam Mayhem 