I think being a switch is both a blessing and a curse. Theoretically we have the best of both worlds…in reality it’s not so simple. We tend to hear a lot about those who are purely Dominant or submissive, but what are some of the myths about us switches?
• Switches can have more playmates •
You’d think that would be true but certainly not in my experience. Given the real lack of Dominants out there (fake ones aside), I’m 100% switch but Dominant 90% of the time. We may have a broader spectrum of playmates to choose from, but that doesn’t mean we are getting the experiences we desire.
• Switches can’t Dom OR sub well •
You know that saying, Jack of all trades, master of none? Yeah, I call bullshit on this when it comes to switches. We are actually more likely to empathise with a partner’s experience because we’ve been in their position. I think we can be better at both because of this unique perspective.
• Switching is easy •
I’ve never switched successfully with someone. I find a dynamic settles one way or the other with two switches, at least most of the time. I know others who have managed it though, so this might be unique to me…but you won’t see me switching from Mummy to good girl.
• Switches will never be satisfied •
This is the same myth applied to bi babes…apparently we are greedy and won’t be happy with just one type of experience. Much like sexuality, switches are on a spectrum and may be Dominant or submissive leaning. I admit I want both equally but it very much depends on the quality of any dynamic.
• Switches Dom and sub the same way •
If someone is a rope bunny sub, they may have no desire to be a rigger Dominant. They may also love dishing out a spanking but hate being spanked themselves. Kink is complex and there’s no guarantee a switch will want to be on the giving and receiving end of the same kinks.
• Switches are less kinky •
Our kinkiness isn’t watered down just because we like being both a Dominant and submissive (my list of kinks are evidence of this). We aren’t all given a finite amount of kinks to be spread across our experiences.
If you’re a switch, what wild myths have you encountered?
Madam Mayhem 