Much like dealing with rejection, dating self confidence takes practise. Shifting your mindset from ‘I have to make this person like me’ to ‘Let’s see if we are compatible’ is the biggest hurdle. Dating is as much about whether you like them as they like you. If you spend all your time trying to impressContinue reading “Dating Self Confidence”
Author Archives: Madam Mayhem
Creepy Moves
Dating is a minefield at the best of times and we’ve all said and done things we regret. These are usually innocent missteps you can get past quickly. But there’s also a host of creepy moves that are sure to make someone feel really uneasy and lose you a potential date. • Location • MentioningContinue reading “Creepy Moves”
Mayhem’s Kinks Part II
That’s right…I have enough kinks to do a second post on the topic. It’s likely there will be a third at some point too…kink is a very slippery slope! • Public Play • I imagine this is connected to my exhibitionism/voyeurism kinks (refer to Part I of my kink list)…I get such a rush fromContinue reading “Mayhem’s Kinks Part II”
Mayhem’s Kinks Part I
If you’ve been following me for a while you might know some of my kinks (I’m not quiet about them), but I thought I’d share the current list (refer to number four…I just can’t help myself). • Experimentalism • I feel like a mad scientist sometimes…concocting ideas for playtime and constantly craving the thrill ofContinue reading “Mayhem’s Kinks Part I”
How to Lose a Match in 10 Seconds
Most dating app profiles I see look like they’ve been generated by the same terrible advice page on the internet (they’ve clearly not taken all my good advice on how to make a great online dating profile!). With thousands of profiles to choose from, looking the same as everyone else really doesn’t cut it. LotsContinue reading “How to Lose a Match in 10 Seconds”
Women and Casual Sex
I recently got into a heated debate with an old (cis het male) colleague over his belief that ‘women can get sex when they want, men get sex when they can’ and that women ‘biologically’ need an emotional connection to enjoy sex. Let me make this very clear…plenty of women want casual sex and trustContinue reading “Women and Casual Sex”
Friendship From Dating
While my dating life has arguably been a train wreck over the last few years (I really should write a book about my bad dates), I’ve made a ton of great friends. The silver lining, I guess? While not every missed romantic connection can turn into a friendship, sometimes the chemistry works for the longerContinue reading “Friendship From Dating”
Dating Safety
Anyone on the dating apps will tell you they are heavily populated with catfish, scammers and people wanting to do harm. It’s inevitable you’ll encounter at least one of these during your time on the apps…I know I’ve had my fair share. It’s a good idea to have some rules in place for your datingContinue reading “Dating Safety”
Eroticon 2023
Empathy. Last weekend was my first Eroticon and the overwhelming impression was that people were there to listen, to support, and to encourage each other. Everyone held space for others and showed up with genuine curiosity…the whole experience felt like a big, warm hug (this cuddle slut was very happy). Respect. I met so many incredible humansContinue reading “Eroticon 2023”
Office Romance
Fun fact…I’ve hooked up with at least one person in every office I’ve worked in (including my current one, shh). There’s something alluring about an office fling, but here are a few things to consider before taking the plunge… Risks Where you work and how long you’ve been there are factors to consider. A startupContinue reading “Office Romance”
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