It’s the latest hetero buzz narrative on social media…cishet women supposedly wanting a 6’5, blue eyed finance man with a trust fund. I’m sure you’ve seen it. Society is always telling women their dating standards are too high and to lower their expectations for a male partner, but should we? For starters, I’ve literally neverContinue reading “Lower Your Standards”
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Baggage
Earlier this year I went on four dates with an older man who didn’t fail to tell me on a regular basis that I brought ‘complications’ to the table. He was referring to Madam Mayhem and considered my sexual openness ‘baggage’. Yet he praised me for being so understanding that he was back living withContinue reading “Baggage”
Unsolicited Advice
I’ve had my fair share of people (mostly men, let’s be real) try to give me advice on everything from dating and job hunting to gym and diet (I’ve been vegan eight years and haven’t died yet). I’m a 42 year old woman with two degrees who’s moved countries five times and started three businessesContinue reading “Unsolicited Advice”
My Hope For Men
As a feminist who highlights the poor behaviour of men, people think I hate all men. I don’t…I love men and I think patriarchy makes life harder for them. Men deserve more, can be more and I have great hope for them… My hope for men is to unlearn the scripts from their childhood. ToContinue reading “My Hope For Men”
Toys Are Teammates
‘You don’t need toys, you have me’ is one of my top red flag statements to hear when it comes to sex. Of course we all want to feel desired and enough for someone during sex, but we need to stop looking at toys like they are a threat…they are our teammates. Shaming someone forContinue reading “Toys Are Teammates”
Dating Self Confidence
Much like dealing with rejection, dating self confidence takes practise. Shifting your mindset from ‘I have to make this person like me’ to ‘Let’s see if we are compatible’ is the biggest hurdle. Dating is as much about whether you like them as they like you. If you spend all your time trying to impressContinue reading “Dating Self Confidence”
Creepy Moves
Dating is a minefield at the best of times and we’ve all said and done things we regret. These are usually innocent missteps you can get past quickly. But there’s also a host of creepy moves that are sure to make someone feel really uneasy and lose you a potential date. • Location • MentioningContinue reading “Creepy Moves”
Eroticon 2023
Empathy. Last weekend was my first Eroticon and the overwhelming impression was that people were there to listen, to support, and to encourage each other. Everyone held space for others and showed up with genuine curiosity…the whole experience felt like a big, warm hug (this cuddle slut was very happy). Respect. I met so many incredible humansContinue reading “Eroticon 2023”
Office Romance
Fun fact…I’ve hooked up with at least one person in every office I’ve worked in (including my current one, shh). There’s something alluring about an office fling, but here are a few things to consider before taking the plunge… Risks Where you work and how long you’ve been there are factors to consider. A startupContinue reading “Office Romance”
Dominant Myths
Thanks to the likes of 50 Shades of Grey, there are so many misconceptions out there about kink. Unless you’ve spent time in the community and researched thoroughly, mainstream media would have you believe a ton of myths about D/s dynamics. Some Dominant myths are… Dominants must be obeyed With any D/s interaction, consent andContinue reading “Dominant Myths”
Madam Mayhem 