I’ve spoken about the dangers of fake Dominants before, but what about fake submissives? I think there’s an assumption that submissives don’t have control (I wrote about submissive myths too), so it can’t be harmful if they are inexperienced. This is absolutely not the case and they can be just as dangerous as fake Dominants.Continue reading “Fake Submissives”
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Switch Myths
I think being a switch is both a blessing and a curse. Theoretically we have the best of both worlds…in reality it’s not so simple. We tend to hear a lot about those who are purely Dominant or submissive, but what are some of the myths about us switches? • Switches can have more playmatesContinue reading “Switch Myths”
Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons
I thought I’d start the year reflecting on some lessons I learnt in 2024 (kind of like last year when I made my list of ins and outs). While it felt like the world was regressing, I actually celebrated growth in most areas of my life (including my biceps). This is what last year taughtContinue reading “Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons”
Submissive Myths
A while back I wrote about Dominant myths…now it’s time to explore some of the falsehoods around submissives (don’t worry my fellow switches, we’ll be up next). Much like ‘Dominant’ can conjure up inaccurate stereotypes of whips and black latex, there are plenty of misconceptions around subs… Subs don’t have any control Even if aContinue reading “Submissive Myths”
Pro Domme
I have recently ventured into the world of being a Pro Domme…yes, I’m living proof that kink is a VERY slippery slope. There are a plethora of harsh Mistresses out there, but very few Pro Dommes at the sensual, gentle femdom end of the spectrum…where I sit as a pleasure Domme. I decided I canContinue reading “Pro Domme”
Mayhem’s 2024 In & Outs
Dating In… Dating Out… Sex In… Sex Out… Kink In… Kink Out… What would you add as your 2024 in and outs?
Toys Are Teammates
‘You don’t need toys, you have me’ is one of my top red flag statements to hear when it comes to sex. Of course we all want to feel desired and enough for someone during sex, but we need to stop looking at toys like they are a threat…they are our teammates. Shaming someone forContinue reading “Toys Are Teammates”
Locktober 2023
It’s that time of year again…no not Halloween…something scarier…Locktober. The month of October is a chance for all the submissives out there to experience chastity for 31 days. If you’ve never tried being locked up in a chastity cage or belt (no, you don’t need a peen to participate), this might be your chance toContinue reading “Locktober 2023”
Mayhem’s Kinks Part II
That’s right…I have enough kinks to do a second post on the topic. It’s likely there will be a third at some point too…kink is a very slippery slope! • Public Play • I imagine this is connected to my exhibitionism/voyeurism kinks (refer to Part I of my kink list)…I get such a rush fromContinue reading “Mayhem’s Kinks Part II”
Mayhem’s Kinks Part I
If you’ve been following me for a while you might know some of my kinks (I’m not quiet about them), but I thought I’d share the current list (refer to number four…I just can’t help myself). • Experimentalism • I feel like a mad scientist sometimes…concocting ideas for playtime and constantly craving the thrill ofContinue reading “Mayhem’s Kinks Part I”
Madam Mayhem 