I think being a switch is both a blessing and a curse. Theoretically we have the best of both worlds…in reality it’s not so simple. We tend to hear a lot about those who are purely Dominant or submissive, but what are some of the myths about us switches? • Switches can have more playmatesContinue reading “Switch Myths”
Tag Archives: Sex
Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons
I thought I’d start the year reflecting on some lessons I learnt in 2024 (kind of like last year when I made my list of ins and outs). While it felt like the world was regressing, I actually celebrated growth in most areas of my life (including my biceps). This is what last year taughtContinue reading “Mayhem’s 2024 Lessons”
Terms to Google
When you spend as much time as I do in the world of kink, you find yourself googling a host of words and acronyms (the latter if you use the dating app Feeld). I’d love to explain some of the more obscure terms I’ve discovered, but alas, the censorship overlords might delete my website. SoContinue reading “Terms to Google”
Fetishising People
If you spend more than a minute on Fabswingers you’ll see plenty of cuckold couples seeking ‘BBC’. If you aren’t familiar with the acronym, Google at your own peril…I’ll wait. We’ve all heard of fetishes for inanimate objects like latex or high heels, but did you know people can be fetishised too? Some people loveContinue reading “Fetishising People”
Mayhem’s Queer Journey
I’ve been trying to write this post for three years and since Pride month is wrapping up today, I think it’s time I finally shared with you my queer journey and coming out as a ‘late-in-life’ (ouch) pansexual. To set the scene: I grew up catholic and attended a catholic all girls’ high school. YouContinue reading “Mayhem’s Queer Journey”
The Swipe Experiment II
I did another Swipe Experiment (nope, still not a masochist despite evidence to the contrary) which was different from the first one I did in 2021. Last time my dating goal was to find a FWB…this time I’m at a place in my dating journey where I’m wanting a relationship. I state this on myContinue reading “The Swipe Experiment II”
Mayhem’s 2024 In & Outs
Dating In… Dating Out… Sex In… Sex Out… Kink In… Kink Out… What would you add as your 2024 in and outs?
Mayhem’s 2023 Wrapped
Madam Mayhem was originally born so I could talk about my dating and kink journey. The hope being that by sharing my experiences it might help others on their own journey. So in that spirit I’m doing a ‘Mayhem’s 2023 Wrapped’ (spoiler alert…it’s been a terrible year for dating). Dating Stats: Reasons Dates Didn’t Progress:Continue reading “Mayhem’s 2023 Wrapped”
Toys Are Teammates
‘You don’t need toys, you have me’ is one of my top red flag statements to hear when it comes to sex. Of course we all want to feel desired and enough for someone during sex, but we need to stop looking at toys like they are a threat…they are our teammates. Shaming someone forContinue reading “Toys Are Teammates”
Mayhem’s Kinks Part II
That’s right…I have enough kinks to do a second post on the topic. It’s likely there will be a third at some point too…kink is a very slippery slope! • Public Play • I imagine this is connected to my exhibitionism/voyeurism kinks (refer to Part I of my kink list)…I get such a rush fromContinue reading “Mayhem’s Kinks Part II”
Madam Mayhem 