My new found funemployment has coincidently landed just before the start of Locktober. I feel like it’s a sign…I’m going to be running my key holding service for another year. If you’ve ever been curious to try chastity or you just want to a taste of being under my control for a month, this isContinue reading “Locktober 2025”
Category Archives: sexuality
Mayhem’s Queer Journey
I’ve been trying to write this post for three years and since Pride month is wrapping up today, I think it’s time I finally shared with you my queer journey and coming out as a ‘late-in-life’ (ouch) pansexual. To set the scene: I grew up catholic and attended a catholic all girls’ high school. YouContinue reading “Mayhem’s Queer Journey”
Mayhem’s 2023 Wrapped
Madam Mayhem was originally born so I could talk about my dating and kink journey. The hope being that by sharing my experiences it might help others on their own journey. So in that spirit I’m doing a ‘Mayhem’s 2023 Wrapped’ (spoiler alert…it’s been a terrible year for dating). Dating Stats: Reasons Dates Didn’t Progress:Continue reading “Mayhem’s 2023 Wrapped”
Toys Are Teammates
‘You don’t need toys, you have me’ is one of my top red flag statements to hear when it comes to sex. Of course we all want to feel desired and enough for someone during sex, but we need to stop looking at toys like they are a threat…they are our teammates. Shaming someone forContinue reading “Toys Are Teammates”
Mayhem’s Kinks Part II
That’s right…I have enough kinks to do a second post on the topic. It’s likely there will be a third at some point too…kink is a very slippery slope! • Public Play • I imagine this is connected to my exhibitionism/voyeurism kinks (refer to Part I of my kink list)…I get such a rush fromContinue reading “Mayhem’s Kinks Part II”
Eroticon 2023
Empathy. Last weekend was my first Eroticon and the overwhelming impression was that people were there to listen, to support, and to encourage each other. Everyone held space for others and showed up with genuine curiosity…the whole experience felt like a big, warm hug (this cuddle slut was very happy). Respect. I met so many incredible humansContinue reading “Eroticon 2023”
Mayhem Myths
I’ve had Madam Mayhem for two years now and the assumptions people make about me because of her is wild. I receive daily messages (mostly from cis men) with absurd misconceptions…so I want to bust the Mayhem myths.
Sexual Health Awards Finalist
Madam Mayhem is a finalist in the 2022 Sexual Health Awards, hosted by SH:24 and Brook. She is nominated in the category of: ‘Micro-Influencer of the Year’ Madam Mayhem is a 41-year-old woman on her sexual liberation journey. By sharing her experiences around dating, sex and kink, she’s disrupting the narrative that life ends forContinue reading “Sexual Health Awards Finalist”
Not All Men
Trigger Warning: harassment, abuse, assault, rape. Saying ‘not all men’ doesn’t help. We know it’s not all (cis) men, but all men benefit from the ‘bad’ ones because it lowers the bar on behaviour. Oh, you don’t harass or rape people? Not violating another human doesn’t make you a ‘nice guy’, it just makes youContinue reading “Not All Men”
Being Submissive
When it comes to sex, the heteronormative stereotype is that men are dominant and women are submissive. This idea limits cis het people into fixed roles and doesn’t allow space for the full spectrum of gender identities or queer dynamics. In reality, anyone can be dominant or submissive, or both (a switch, like me). DuringContinue reading “Being Submissive”
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