My new found funemployment has coincidently landed just before the start of Locktober. I feel like it’s a sign…I’m going to be running my key holding service for another year. If you’ve ever been curious to try chastity or you just want to a taste of being under my control for a month, this isContinue reading “Locktober 2025”
Tag Archives: submissive
Fake Submissives
I’ve spoken about the dangers of fake Dominants before, but what about fake submissives? I think there’s an assumption that submissives don’t have control (I wrote about submissive myths too), so it can’t be harmful if they are inexperienced. This is absolutely not the case and they can be just as dangerous as fake Dominants.Continue reading “Fake Submissives”
Switch Myths
I think being a switch is both a blessing and a curse. Theoretically we have the best of both worlds…in reality it’s not so simple. We tend to hear a lot about those who are purely Dominant or submissive, but what are some of the myths about us switches? • Switches can have more playmatesContinue reading “Switch Myths”
Submissive Myths
A while back I wrote about Dominant myths…now it’s time to explore some of the falsehoods around submissives (don’t worry my fellow switches, we’ll be up next). Much like ‘Dominant’ can conjure up inaccurate stereotypes of whips and black latex, there are plenty of misconceptions around subs… Subs don’t have any control Even if aContinue reading “Submissive Myths”
Dominant Myths
Thanks to the likes of 50 Shades of Grey, there are so many misconceptions out there about kink. Unless you’ve spent time in the community and researched thoroughly, mainstream media would have you believe a ton of myths about D/s dynamics. Some Dominant myths are… Dominants must be obeyed With any D/s interaction, consent andContinue reading “Dominant Myths”
D/s Honorifics
When establishing a BDSM dynamic, it’s common to have honorifics for Dominants and submissives. They typically signify the type of D/s dynamic and each person’s role within it. D-type honorifics tend to elevate and command respect, while s-type names are more likely to be demeaning, show a lower rank or denote ownership. Using honorifics can:Continue reading “D/s Honorifics”
Being Submissive
When it comes to sex, the heteronormative stereotype is that men are dominant and women are submissive. This idea limits cis het people into fixed roles and doesn’t allow space for the full spectrum of gender identities or queer dynamics. In reality, anyone can be dominant or submissive, or both (a switch, like me). DuringContinue reading “Being Submissive”
Getting Kinky
Getting into kink is a personal journey that can unlock a new level of sexual pleasure for you and your partner/s. Everyone is unique and our kinks are just as individual as our taste in food or music. There’s no rulebook…you don’t have to have a foot fetish or enjoy being degraded to be kinky.Continue reading “Getting Kinky”
The Cougar/Cub Dynamic
While it’s often seen by society as taboo, the cougar/cub sexual dynamic can be a really healthy one. I’ve always preferred younger men…with 40 just around the corner and my prime cougar years ahead of me, I’m a huge advocate for this kind of relationship (in case it wasn’t incredibly obvious already). I’m frequently askedContinue reading “The Cougar/Cub Dynamic”
One Domme Doesn’t Fit All
I’m a switch and enjoy being dominant and submissive equally, but as a cougar I’m naturally more of a domme. Cubs feel comfortable handing control over to me and quite often approach me wanting their first submissive experience. Unfortunately, mainstream porn would have us believe that all dommes are sadistic, whip wielding dominatrix types…so notContinue reading “One Domme Doesn’t Fit All”
Madam Mayhem 