If you’ve been following me for a while you might know some of my kinks (I’m not quiet about them), but I thought I’d share the current list (refer to number four…I just can’t help myself). • Experimentalism • I feel like a mad scientist sometimes…concocting ideas for playtime and constantly craving the thrill ofContinue reading “Mayhem’s Kinks Part I”
Tag Archives: Sex
Women and Casual Sex
I recently got into a heated debate with an old (cis het male) colleague over his belief that ‘women can get sex when they want, men get sex when they can’ and that women ‘biologically’ need an emotional connection to enjoy sex. Let me make this very clear…plenty of women want casual sex and trustContinue reading “Women and Casual Sex”
Eroticon 2023
Empathy. Last weekend was my first Eroticon and the overwhelming impression was that people were there to listen, to support, and to encourage each other. Everyone held space for others and showed up with genuine curiosity…the whole experience felt like a big, warm hug (this cuddle slut was very happy). Respect. I met so many incredible humansContinue reading “Eroticon 2023”
Office Romance
Fun fact…I’ve hooked up with at least one person in every office I’ve worked in (including my current one, shh). There’s something alluring about an office fling, but here are a few things to consider before taking the plunge… Risks Where you work and how long you’ve been there are factors to consider. A startupContinue reading “Office Romance”
Perimenopause
Whether you have a vulva or not, you need to know about perimenopause. It’s the time leading up to menopause (which marks one year since the end of their last period). I didn’t even know what perimenopause was until a few months ago…when my doctor told me I’m likely going through it. We need toContinue reading “Perimenopause”
Time To Date
We’ve all encountered time wasters on the dating apps…people who string you along, chat sporadically and then three weeks later you realise they ghost you…they had no intention of meeting you. It wears you down if you are someone genuinely wanting to meet people and date. Time wasters are on the apps for lots ofContinue reading “Time To Date”
Mayhem Myths
I’ve had Madam Mayhem for two years now and the assumptions people make about me because of her is wild. I receive daily messages (mostly from cis men) with absurd misconceptions…so I want to bust the Mayhem myths.
Sexual Health Awards Finalist
Madam Mayhem is a finalist in the 2022 Sexual Health Awards, hosted by SH:24 and Brook. She is nominated in the category of: ‘Micro-Influencer of the Year’ Madam Mayhem is a 41-year-old woman on her sexual liberation journey. By sharing her experiences around dating, sex and kink, she’s disrupting the narrative that life ends forContinue reading “Sexual Health Awards Finalist”
Not All Men
Trigger Warning: harassment, abuse, assault, rape. Saying ‘not all men’ doesn’t help. We know it’s not all (cis) men, but all men benefit from the ‘bad’ ones because it lowers the bar on behaviour. Oh, you don’t harass or rape people? Not violating another human doesn’t make you a ‘nice guy’, it just makes youContinue reading “Not All Men”
Virginity
Let’s get one thing clear…virginity is a social construct. You aren’t suddenly a different person once you’ve had sex for the first time and what constitutes ‘sex’ looks different for everyone, so how can it be measured? The idea of virginity is completely fictional and shouldn’t play any part in dictating someone’s sexual identity orContinue reading “Virginity”
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