People on dating apps are looking for all sorts on the spectrum of human engagement…everything from a hookup to a serious relationship. But I’ve noticed it’s very common to see cisgender, heterosexual men being clear they only want something casual…their profiles often void of any information aside from ‘nothing serious’ or ‘here for a goodContinue reading “Here For a Good Time”
Author Archives: Madam Mayhem
A Little More Conversation
Anyone on the dating apps knows that the talking stage is exhausting…you feel like you’ll scream if one more person asks ‘What brings you to Tinder?’ It can be taxing, but conversation is a necessary evil of online dating (unless someone never replies to your message…which can also happen!). Some people like to meet asContinue reading “A Little More Conversation”
Edging
It’s easy to fall into the same routine with solo and partner play…you have a formula and it gets the job done, right? Wham, bam, thank you ma’am! But sometimes it’s nice to take a break from your regular patterns and mix things up…and edging is a great way to do that. Edging is theContinue reading “Edging”
Cheating
We’ve all seen those online dating profiles when swiping…’looking for discreet fun’…’will send face pics after matching’. Cheaters are all over the apps (and in real life) and I’ve unfortunately encountered a few, despite avoiding these kind of profiles. I’ve always ended a relationship if I’m not happy, but it seems there’s no shortage ofContinue reading “Cheating”
Don’t Tell a Cougar…
Chatting to a cougar for the first time can be daunting and I’ve had my fair share of cubs say all the wrong things. What seems like a compliment can come across as insensitive or disrespectful…you might put a cougar off before you’ve even got off the dating app! These are some of the commonContinue reading “Don’t Tell a Cougar…”
Getting Kinky
Getting into kink is a personal journey that can unlock a new level of sexual pleasure for you and your partner/s. Everyone is unique and our kinks are just as individual as our taste in food or music. There’s no rulebook…you don’t have to have a foot fetish or enjoy being degraded to be kinky.Continue reading “Getting Kinky”
Dating Hygiene
If you speak to any woman who dates cis men, she’ll tell you at least one horror story of a date who’s personal hygiene was awful. Women preen for hours preparing for a date, but more often than not, the effort is far from reciprocated by men. Personal hygiene is so important. First impressions last,Continue reading “Dating Hygiene”
The Swipe Experiment
I constantly have cubs assume my dating life is very glamorous, with daily comments like ‘There must be a long line of guys falling over themselves to date you!’ I also hear complaints that online dating is much harder for straight men than any other group. I decided to document the outcomes of 100 matchesContinue reading “The Swipe Experiment”
The Hangover Horn
It’s no coincidence that most of my online dating matches happen on a Sunday or the day after a major social event. It’s also the time when anyone who’s ever ghosted me feels the need to message ‘hey’ out of the blue. It’s the curse of the hangover horn and it’s a very real phenomenon.Continue reading “The Hangover Horn”
Cougar/Cub Relationships
Speaking to cubs over the years, very few have been open to the possibility of a serious relationship with an older woman. They usually see cougars as a fantasy, a tick off their sexual bucket list…a one night stand or a brief fling at most. But there’s no reason cougars and cubs can’t have moreContinue reading “Cougar/Cub Relationships”
Madam Mayhem 