Ever seen ‘shoot your shot’ on someone’s online dating profile? While it might seem inoffensive enough, this line is one of my top turn offs…it’s an immediate left swipe for me. Inviting someone to ‘shoot their shot’ with you comes across as entitled…especially if you haven’t bothered writing anything about yourself. Other versions of thisContinue reading “Shoot Your Shot”
Category Archives: dating
Sexual Exploration
Whether it’s with a new playmate or in a long term relationship, sexual exploration can enhance your experience of pleasure. You can explore all sorts of new territory with partners, including everything from pegging, public fun, dominant/submissive experimentation to the use of sex toys. However, one of the most frequent questions I’m asked is ‘HowContinue reading “Sexual Exploration”
Cougar Appeal
Whether a cub is wanting their first experience with an older woman or it’s been their dating preference for a while, they all say the same thing about cougar appeal. I am frequently told that it’s enjoyable to date an older woman because they: Know what they want in life Are comfortable in their ownContinue reading “Cougar Appeal”
Good Vibes Only
Dating app profiles often contain glaring red flags, but some are hard to spot and go undetected as just another dating profile cliche. There are a few key phrases which at surface level seem pretty innocent or even justified, but can put people off swiping right because of the perceived deeper meaning behind them. TheseContinue reading “Good Vibes Only”
Vulva Owner’s Pleasure
Vulva owners are conditioned from a very young age to be people pleasers and put everyone else’s needs first. One area this can show up is during partnered sex…especially with society’s focus on penis pleasure and penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex. The orgasm gap is very real and is most prominent in heterosexual sex than any otherContinue reading “Vulva Owner’s Pleasure”
Catfishing
Catfishing has a few definitions, but I define it as a person lying about aspects of their life or who they are in order to manipulate someone and get what they want. This could be anything from a match, to a date or sex, to money (think The Tinder Swindler). I’ve had my fair shareContinue reading “Catfishing”
Here For a Good Time
People on dating apps are looking for all sorts on the spectrum of human engagement…everything from a hookup to a serious relationship. But I’ve noticed it’s very common to see cisgender, heterosexual men being clear they only want something casual…their profiles often void of any information aside from ‘nothing serious’ or ‘here for a goodContinue reading “Here For a Good Time”
A Little More Conversation
Anyone on the dating apps knows that the talking stage is exhausting…you feel like you’ll scream if one more person asks ‘What brings you to Tinder?’ It can be taxing, but conversation is a necessary evil of online dating (unless someone never replies to your message…which can also happen!). Some people like to meet asContinue reading “A Little More Conversation”
Cheating
We’ve all seen those online dating profiles when swiping…’looking for discreet fun’…’will send face pics after matching’. Cheaters are all over the apps (and in real life) and I’ve unfortunately encountered a few, despite avoiding these kind of profiles. I’ve always ended a relationship if I’m not happy, but it seems there’s no shortage ofContinue reading “Cheating”
Don’t Tell a Cougar…
Chatting to a cougar for the first time can be daunting and I’ve had my fair share of cubs say all the wrong things. What seems like a compliment can come across as insensitive or disrespectful…you might put a cougar off before you’ve even got off the dating app! These are some of the commonContinue reading “Don’t Tell a Cougar…”
Madam Mayhem 