Let’s get one thing clear…virginity is a social construct. You aren’t suddenly a different person once you’ve had sex for the first time and what constitutes ‘sex’ looks different for everyone, so how can it be measured? The idea of virginity is completely fictional and shouldn’t play any part in dictating someone’s sexual identity orContinue reading “Virginity”
Tag Archives: Sex
Sugar Mommas
I’ve been asked to be a sugar momma at least once a week since I started dating again two years ago. Usually this request comes without so much as a ‘hello’…it’s just some guy in his twenties sliding into my DMs thinking I’ll be happy to pay for his (no doubt charming) company. The ideaContinue reading “Sugar Mommas”
Using Condoms
If you’re engaging in hook ups or regular casual sex, condoms are necessary in helping prevent pregnancy and the spread of STIs. Despite the fact that no sex is 100% risk free, condoms are in fact the only form of contraception that protects against STIs. But according to SH:24, condoms are typically only 82% effectiveContinue reading “Using Condoms”
Fake Dominants
There’s no shame in being a newbie to the kink scene. We all have to start somewhere and if you’re honest with potential playmates about your experience and play is safe and consensual, there’s no harm done. What’s dangerous is posing as an experienced dominant when you aren’t one. Not everyone is honest about theirContinue reading “Fake Dominants”
Being Submissive
When it comes to sex, the heteronormative stereotype is that men are dominant and women are submissive. This idea limits cis het people into fixed roles and doesn’t allow space for the full spectrum of gender identities or queer dynamics. In reality, anyone can be dominant or submissive, or both (a switch, like me). DuringContinue reading “Being Submissive”
Delayed Gratification
In a world where social media reigns supreme and everyone is hooked on the promise of their next dopamine hit, the thrill of delayed gratification has been forgotten. Remember when you were young and you longed for that first kiss? Riding the high of uncertainty, wondering if they liked you too? Will they reach forContinue reading “Delayed Gratification”
Sexual Exploration
Whether it’s with a new playmate or in a long term relationship, sexual exploration can enhance your experience of pleasure. You can explore all sorts of new territory with partners, including everything from pegging, public fun, dominant/submissive experimentation to the use of sex toys. However, one of the most frequent questions I’m asked is ‘HowContinue reading “Sexual Exploration”
Cougar Appeal
Whether a cub is wanting their first experience with an older woman or it’s been their dating preference for a while, they all say the same thing about cougar appeal. I am frequently told that it’s enjoyable to date an older woman because they: Know what they want in life Are comfortable in their ownContinue reading “Cougar Appeal”
Vulva Owner’s Pleasure
Vulva owners are conditioned from a very young age to be people pleasers and put everyone else’s needs first. One area this can show up is during partnered sex…especially with society’s focus on penis pleasure and penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex. The orgasm gap is very real and is most prominent in heterosexual sex than any otherContinue reading “Vulva Owner’s Pleasure”
Catfishing
Catfishing has a few definitions, but I define it as a person lying about aspects of their life or who they are in order to manipulate someone and get what they want. This could be anything from a match, to a date or sex, to money (think The Tinder Swindler). I’ve had my fair shareContinue reading “Catfishing”
Madam Mayhem 