Rejection is one of the unpleasant but inevitable byproducts of dating. It’s usually our biggest fear as we put ourselves out there in the hopes of meeting someone. Since it can’t be avoided, dealing with rejection is a muscle to train like any other. The more you get comfortable with rejection, the less likely itContinue reading “Dealing With Rejection”
Author Archives: Madam Mayhem
Delayed Gratification
In a world where social media reigns supreme and everyone is hooked on the promise of their next dopamine hit, the thrill of delayed gratification has been forgotten. Remember when you were young and you longed for that first kiss? Riding the high of uncertainty, wondering if they liked you too? Will they reach forContinue reading “Delayed Gratification”
Shoot Your Shot
Ever seen ‘shoot your shot’ on someone’s online dating profile? While it might seem inoffensive enough, this line is one of my top turn offs…it’s an immediate left swipe for me. Inviting someone to ‘shoot their shot’ with you comes across as entitled…especially if you haven’t bothered writing anything about yourself. Other versions of thisContinue reading “Shoot Your Shot”
Sexual Exploration
Whether it’s with a new playmate or in a long term relationship, sexual exploration can enhance your experience of pleasure. You can explore all sorts of new territory with partners, including everything from pegging, public fun, dominant/submissive experimentation to the use of sex toys. However, one of the most frequent questions I’m asked is ‘HowContinue reading “Sexual Exploration”
Having Children
They say you can never truly be prepared for kids, but ignorance is definitely not bliss in this scenario. So many people become parents without really knowing what they were getting into. It’s the most serious commitment you can make in life and one that shouldn’t be entered into lightly. There’s also the big question…doContinue reading “Having Children”
Gender Stereotypes
Cis-gender stereotypes are so engrained in society that we experience them a hundred times a day and don’t even realise it. It starts with the gender reveal parties (which I’d love to eradicate) before we are even born. When we come into this world, there’s already an expectation of how we will look, dress, actContinue reading “Gender Stereotypes”
Cougar Appeal
Whether a cub is wanting their first experience with an older woman or it’s been their dating preference for a while, they all say the same thing about cougar appeal. I am frequently told that it’s enjoyable to date an older woman because they: Know what they want in life Are comfortable in their ownContinue reading “Cougar Appeal”
Good Vibes Only
Dating app profiles often contain glaring red flags, but some are hard to spot and go undetected as just another dating profile cliche. There are a few key phrases which at surface level seem pretty innocent or even justified, but can put people off swiping right because of the perceived deeper meaning behind them. TheseContinue reading “Good Vibes Only”
Vulva Owner’s Pleasure
Vulva owners are conditioned from a very young age to be people pleasers and put everyone else’s needs first. One area this can show up is during partnered sex…especially with society’s focus on penis pleasure and penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex. The orgasm gap is very real and is most prominent in heterosexual sex than any otherContinue reading “Vulva Owner’s Pleasure”
Catfishing
Catfishing has a few definitions, but I define it as a person lying about aspects of their life or who they are in order to manipulate someone and get what they want. This could be anything from a match, to a date or sex, to money (think The Tinder Swindler). I’ve had my fair shareContinue reading “Catfishing”
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