When establishing a BDSM dynamic, it’s common to have honorifics for Dominants and submissives. They typically signify the type of D/s dynamic and each person’s role within it. D-type honorifics tend to elevate and command respect, while s-type names are more likely to be demeaning, show a lower rank or denote ownership. Using honorifics can:Continue reading “D/s Honorifics”
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Fake Dominants
There’s no shame in being a newbie to the kink scene. We all have to start somewhere and if you’re honest with potential playmates about your experience and play is safe and consensual, there’s no harm done. What’s dangerous is posing as an experienced dominant when you aren’t one. Not everyone is honest about theirContinue reading “Fake Dominants”
Simping
The original meaning of the term ‘simping’ is to crush on someone at a distance. An infatuation from afar which has you doing things wildly out of character for the object of your affection. It’s usually applied in the context of men’s behaviour towards women. The term however has now devolved and is mostly usedContinue reading “Simping”
Sliding Into Someone’s DMs
Even with so many dating apps available these days, social media is a common way to meet people. Some love it, some hate it…but one thing is for sure, there’s a right way to go about it if you want to slide into someone’s DMs. Before you even send the first message, bear in mindContinue reading “Sliding Into Someone’s DMs”
Being Submissive
When it comes to sex, the heteronormative stereotype is that men are dominant and women are submissive. This idea limits cis het people into fixed roles and doesn’t allow space for the full spectrum of gender identities or queer dynamics. In reality, anyone can be dominant or submissive, or both (a switch, like me). DuringContinue reading “Being Submissive”
Controversial Dating App Ideas
After two years on the dating apps and encountering the same problems with matches (remember my swipe experiment?!), I have some controversial ideas to make online dating a much better experience for everyone. My controversial dating apps ideas are: • Therapy should be a mandatory prerequisite for signing up. • You must provide evidence thatContinue reading “Controversial Dating App Ideas”
Dealing With Rejection
Rejection is one of the unpleasant but inevitable byproducts of dating. It’s usually our biggest fear as we put ourselves out there in the hopes of meeting someone. Since it can’t be avoided, dealing with rejection is a muscle to train like any other. The more you get comfortable with rejection, the less likely itContinue reading “Dealing With Rejection”
Shoot Your Shot
Ever seen ‘shoot your shot’ on someone’s online dating profile? While it might seem inoffensive enough, this line is one of my top turn offs…it’s an immediate left swipe for me. Inviting someone to ‘shoot their shot’ with you comes across as entitled…especially if you haven’t bothered writing anything about yourself. Other versions of thisContinue reading “Shoot Your Shot”
Sexual Exploration
Whether it’s with a new playmate or in a long term relationship, sexual exploration can enhance your experience of pleasure. You can explore all sorts of new territory with partners, including everything from pegging, public fun, dominant/submissive experimentation to the use of sex toys. However, one of the most frequent questions I’m asked is ‘HowContinue reading “Sexual Exploration”
Having Children
They say you can never truly be prepared for kids, but ignorance is definitely not bliss in this scenario. So many people become parents without really knowing what they were getting into. It’s the most serious commitment you can make in life and one that shouldn’t be entered into lightly. There’s also the big question…doContinue reading “Having Children”
Madam Mayhem 