Madam Mayhem is a finalist in the 2022 Sexual Health Awards, hosted by SH:24 and Brook. She is nominated in the category of: ‘Micro-Influencer of the Year’ Madam Mayhem is a 41-year-old woman on her sexual liberation journey. By sharing her experiences around dating, sex and kink, she’s disrupting the narrative that life ends forContinue reading “Sexual Health Awards Finalist”
Tag Archives: Kink
D/s Honorifics
When establishing a BDSM dynamic, it’s common to have honorifics for Dominants and submissives. They typically signify the type of D/s dynamic and each person’s role within it. D-type honorifics tend to elevate and command respect, while s-type names are more likely to be demeaning, show a lower rank or denote ownership. Using honorifics can:Continue reading “D/s Honorifics”
Fake Dominants
There’s no shame in being a newbie to the kink scene. We all have to start somewhere and if you’re honest with potential playmates about your experience and play is safe and consensual, there’s no harm done. What’s dangerous is posing as an experienced dominant when you aren’t one. Not everyone is honest about theirContinue reading “Fake Dominants”
Being Submissive
When it comes to sex, the heteronormative stereotype is that men are dominant and women are submissive. This idea limits cis het people into fixed roles and doesn’t allow space for the full spectrum of gender identities or queer dynamics. In reality, anyone can be dominant or submissive, or both (a switch, like me). DuringContinue reading “Being Submissive”
Sexual Exploration
Whether it’s with a new playmate or in a long term relationship, sexual exploration can enhance your experience of pleasure. You can explore all sorts of new territory with partners, including everything from pegging, public fun, dominant/submissive experimentation to the use of sex toys. However, one of the most frequent questions I’m asked is ‘HowContinue reading “Sexual Exploration”
Edging
It’s easy to fall into the same routine with solo and partner play…you have a formula and it gets the job done, right? Wham, bam, thank you ma’am! But sometimes it’s nice to take a break from your regular patterns and mix things up…and edging is a great way to do that. Edging is theContinue reading “Edging”
Don’t Tell a Cougar…
Chatting to a cougar for the first time can be daunting and I’ve had my fair share of cubs say all the wrong things. What seems like a compliment can come across as insensitive or disrespectful…you might put a cougar off before you’ve even got off the dating app! These are some of the commonContinue reading “Don’t Tell a Cougar…”
Getting Kinky
Getting into kink is a personal journey that can unlock a new level of sexual pleasure for you and your partner/s. Everyone is unique and our kinks are just as individual as our taste in food or music. There’s no rulebook…you don’t have to have a foot fetish or enjoy being degraded to be kinky.Continue reading “Getting Kinky”
All I Want For Christmas
All I want for Christmas is for people to stop asking me if I… Am really a cougar Want a threesome Wanna fuck Have Snap All I want for Christmas is for people on dating apps to… Get verified Write a bio Have decent profile photos Stop sending ‘hey’ as a first message All IContinue reading “All I Want For Christmas”
Aftercare
Aftercare is a term used in the BDSM community for the care you give to yourself and partners after a scene. The world of sex and kink can be intense and aftercare should be prioritised as part of any play you are involved in. It’s too often overlooked when it is just as important thanContinue reading “Aftercare”
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