When it comes to sex, the heteronormative stereotype is that men are dominant and women are submissive. This idea limits cis het people into fixed roles and doesn’t allow space for the full spectrum of gender identities or queer dynamics. In reality, anyone can be dominant or submissive, or both (a switch, like me). DuringContinue reading “Being Submissive”
Category Archives: Kink
Delayed Gratification
In a world where social media reigns supreme and everyone is hooked on the promise of their next dopamine hit, the thrill of delayed gratification has been forgotten. Remember when you were young and you longed for that first kiss? Riding the high of uncertainty, wondering if they liked you too? Will they reach forContinue reading “Delayed Gratification”
Sexual Exploration
Whether it’s with a new playmate or in a long term relationship, sexual exploration can enhance your experience of pleasure. You can explore all sorts of new territory with partners, including everything from pegging, public fun, dominant/submissive experimentation to the use of sex toys. However, one of the most frequent questions I’m asked is ‘HowContinue reading “Sexual Exploration”
Edging
It’s easy to fall into the same routine with solo and partner play…you have a formula and it gets the job done, right? Wham, bam, thank you ma’am! But sometimes it’s nice to take a break from your regular patterns and mix things up…and edging is a great way to do that. Edging is theContinue reading “Edging”
Don’t Tell a Cougar…
Chatting to a cougar for the first time can be daunting and I’ve had my fair share of cubs say all the wrong things. What seems like a compliment can come across as insensitive or disrespectful…you might put a cougar off before you’ve even got off the dating app! These are some of the commonContinue reading “Don’t Tell a Cougar…”
Getting Kinky
Getting into kink is a personal journey that can unlock a new level of sexual pleasure for you and your partner/s. Everyone is unique and our kinks are just as individual as our taste in food or music. There’s no rulebook…you don’t have to have a foot fetish or enjoy being degraded to be kinky.Continue reading “Getting Kinky”
All I Want For Christmas
All I want for Christmas is for people to stop asking me if I… Am really a cougar Want a threesome Wanna fuck Have Snap All I want for Christmas is for people on dating apps to… Get verified Write a bio Have decent profile photos Stop sending ‘hey’ as a first message All IContinue reading “All I Want For Christmas”
Aftercare
Aftercare is a term used in the BDSM community for the care you give to yourself and partners after a scene. The world of sex and kink can be intense and aftercare should be prioritised as part of any play you are involved in. It’s too often overlooked when it is just as important thanContinue reading “Aftercare”
Rough Sex
Firstly, let’s get a few things straight. Sex doesn’t have to be kinky to be amazing. It doesn’t have to be rough to be kinky. Lastly, not everyone enjoys rough sex. We are all individuals, never assume anyone’s desires without first having the conversation…it’s that simple. There seems to be a misconception that we mustContinue reading “Rough Sex”
Pegging
So you’ve mastered entry level butt play (starting here) and now you’re ready to step it up with pegging. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of things, it can be tricky territory to navigate with a partner. Before I dive in (so to speak), for those who aren’t familiar…pegging is when one partnerContinue reading “Pegging”
Madam Mayhem 